Today I get to introduce you to Rachael – a fellow blogger and first time Mama who I’ve been chatting to for some time now. Florence & Theodore (Teddy) were born around the same time and I’ve loved following Rachael’s journey into motherhood. We’ve swapped blogs for a day and today she’s here to share the Lessons she’s learned since becoming a Mummy.
Nothing can prepare you for life with a baby, especially your first. You may have read all the books, spent hours browsing the internet for tips and spoke to all your relatives or friends with children, but nothing will give you a true representative of what it’s like. I had this idea in my head of what it would be like and naively thought ‘how hard can it actually be?!’
It turns out..it is actually really fucking hard! Your whole life is completely turned upside down and on its head. Everything you thought you knew goes out the window and I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve just stared at Teddy wondering what the bloody hell I’ve let myself in for.
Not all of the lessons I have learnt will be positive ones and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Some people will make out like parenting is a breeze and the most wonderful thing in the world all of the time, which more often than not, it is! However there are the days where you just want to shut yourself in a dark room and you aren’t sure whether you want to cry or sleep first!
- Not all babies sleep where they are supposed to! I learnt this the hard way when we first brought Teddy home. On our first night I put him into his crib next to my bed expecting him to sleep until his next feed. He hates the crib. He hates the moses basket. What he does love, is sleeping in bed with Mummy and Daddy! I never thought I would co-sleep and it didn’t really occur to me that we might end up doing, however it’s possibly the best thing we’ve done, for all our sakes!
- You really don’t get 5 minutes to yourself. If you aren’t feeding, burping, changing or entertaining a baby, you are catching up on all the clothes washing that has suddenly come from nowhere, washing the pots or trying to shower like a ninja whilst the baby naps. What i’d give for just 10 minutes to sit and read a book..
- You’ll cry at the littlest things and it’s completely normal! Parenting is hard work and it can sometimes feel so overwhelming that you just need five minutes to have a good cry.
- You look at the world in a whole different light. Over the past couple of months there have been some really horrific things happening all over the country and although they have always affected me, since becoming a Mum, they have affected me in a whole different way. I worry about the world that Teddy is growing up in and we can only hope that it does get better.
- Babies shit a lot. They also like shitting in a freshly changed nappy. I’m sure he does it on purpose.
- You might not feel that overwhelming rush of love for your baby as soon as they are born, and that’s nothing to worry about! You’ve just been through labour and wondering what the bloody hell has just happened. But when that love does come, and it will, it’ll be like nothing else you’ve ever felt. It’s so intense that when you really sit and think about it, it completely consumes you and there is nothing you wouldn’t do for them.
- It’s okay to ask questions! No question is too silly or stupid, I can’t tell you how many ridiculous questions I’ve asked google or other mummies, especially in the middle of the night when you are sleep deprived and trying to stay awake over a feeding baby!
- You’ll see your partner in a whole other light. Watching Aaron be a Daddy to our little boy is my absolute favourite thing in the world. I’ve really lucked out with Aaron and I don’t know what I would have done without him. Teddy & I are so lucky to have him.