When I set about recording this pregnancy, I promised myself (and you!) that I would be 100% totally honest about how I was finding things. Sure I’d always pictured pregnancy for me as this wonderfully enlightening journey where despite the early symptoms of morning sickness […]
Category: SECOND TRIMESTER
As a little girl, I loved to play ‘babies’. You’d often find me and my best friend from across the road strutting around our cul-de-sac pushing Baby Born in her buggy with an abundance of fake nappies & plastic food stuffed into a Spice Girls […]
We made it! 24 Weeks and viable. *BIG sigh of relief*. This little girl has been growing in my tummy for 24 weeks and from now, if she is born the doctors and midwives have to try to help her survive, no matter how early.
We’ve had another fairly positive fortnight and I’ve even managed to go out two Friday nights in a row. The difference it makes to my mood and confidence to get dressed and made up is huge and it’s been really good for us all to be a little more sociable and catch up with friends.
It’s also given me the chance to try out a few more brands when it comes to dressing a bump! I plan to do a post on some of my favourite maternity clothing picks in the next week but favourites so far have to be this Bardot top from New Look & this dress from Boohoo. Much to Sean’s amusement the Big Bridget Jones-esque maternity knickers my Mum bought me made their debut on Friday night. I can’t lie they are amazingly comfortable but also fab for reducing VPLs in bump tight dresses!
Talking of dresses, I’ve been asked to be bridesmaid for my Uncle and his new wife-to-be in March and so last Saturday we headed for a dress fitting! Not surprisingly, the original dress we’d ordered pre-pregnancy wouldn’t even zip up, but luckily the store had one in the next size up which just needs a few darts removing and a couple of panels adding to either side to accommodate for this big bump of mine.
I know I say it every time, but this belly of mine really is growing at rapid speed. Thankfully, while I am gaining a little weight all over, I am mainly all around the front now. I have to wonder, considering baby is meant to triple in size, if not more, in the next 16 weeks, how on earth I am going to fit in anything or get anywhere at full term! I do love having a bump though. It’s my favourite thing about pregnancy – knowing that our little girl is living in there.
I am on a bit of a spending ban for baby after my recent clothing & essentials hauls but I did pick up a bundle of clothes from a lady in a neighbouring town for £25 and my oh my there was so much included! Well over £400 worth of clothes and all in such beautiful condition. My mother in law has crocheted us a lovely, super soft blanket for the nursery. This week, I’ve made a start on organising all of the bits we already have and sorting them into ages etc – perhaps the nesting has begun already? We’ve also been looking at prams and nursery furniture and making lists of all of the things we still need to get. We’re heading to the Baby Show next month and my friends are throwing me a Baby Shower in April so I think we will likely hold off on buying too much more until both of those have passed.
That, however, hasn’t stopped me from indulging in a little self love for me! Sometimes when you’re busy growing a baby you forget that you count too and so this week I headed to Rush Hair & Beauty for a new style and colour and treated myself to some new make up from the No7 counter after a makeover in store. I am going to book the massage my Mum bought me for Christmas soon too. I’ve been using the Mama Mio Skincare to try and reduce stretch marks and keep my skin looking radiant. My boobs appear to be a nice shade of blue at the moment as they begin to fill with milk and grow for the first time since I was 12 (nice, I know!) and so their Pregnancy Boob Tube lotion is very much in demand right now! I’ve also booked a bump shoot with my wonderful friend Sarah on her Red Shoe Road Show! The excitement is unreal.
Baby has definitely upped her wriggling game over the last couple of weeks and I’m tracking between 9 – 12 movement sessions per day with my Kicks Count Kick Counter. She moves mostly first thing in the mornings, in the bath and late thing at night but I feel movements all throughout the day. Sometimes the odd kick or twist catches me by surprise and makes me jump! From now, looking out for any changes in her pattern of movement is really important for reducing the risk of stillbirth so we’ll be keeping a close eye on her! On the topic of Kicks Count, they’re running a campaign called Love Your Bump between now and Valentines day and are raising money to continue the amazing work they do to save the lives of babies each day. I will be roping Sean in to paint my bump as part of their Love Your Bump competition and texting BUMP03 £2 to 70070 to donate to their fund.
According to Bounty.com, she is roughly a foot long – please tell me I’m not alone in immediately comparing her size to a subway – and weighs 600g (1.3lb). In vegetable terms, she’s around the size of an ‘ear of corn’. She’s now more accustomed to laying flat and her lungs are maturing to enable her to breathe air as well as water. Most mind boggling though is that her face is now fully formed with eyelashes, eyebrows and hair. I wonder every day what she looks like!
I have an appointment with the midwife on Tuesday and then once we know all is well, I think we are going to make a start on her nursery!
That’s all from Bump & I this week I think. Keep a look out for my Kicks Count Love Your Bump entry – we’ll need your votes! – and if you haven’t already,take a peek at my previous pregnancy updates in The Bump Diaries.
Woweee! The last two weeks appear to have flown by. Today, I turned 22 weeks pregnant and it seems like only yesterday that we were waiting patiently at the 20 week scan. I had every intention of doing a little update this time last week, […]
Okay, I know, I know! It’s early to be going mad buying everything, but when you work in the town centre it is SO hard to walk past cute baby clothes in windows without going in and having a look… and maybe picking a thing […]
Now that we’re a little passed that all important half way mark with our bump, it really is time to start preparing for her arrival and thinking about how we are going to make the adjustment as a family as easy and as stress free as possible. One of the things I have already been asked a million times is how I will be feeding our baby girl. The first thing that comes into my mind when people ask this question is “with milk”, but whether it is right or wrong for them to even ask, I know what they really want to know is whether I will be breastfeeding or bottle feeding.
I’ve been around the baby world for a long while now, what with Beebies opening in 2012, and I have met and become friends with so many Mama’s over the years. I’ve also been witness to so much debate over which method is best, whether it’s okay to breastfeed in public, does bottle feeding your baby make you a bad mum? I know children, well, people who have thrived on both. I’ve watched on the side lines as amazing Mama’s have struggled to feed their little ones the ‘natural’ way, and yet because some of society says that breast is best, put theirs and their baby’s health at risk because they didn’t want to seem like a bad mother, or feel like they were letting the side down. I’ve seen bottle feeding Mama’s publicly attack those who breastfeed on social media because for some reason a bit of side boob offends the eye. On both ‘sides’ I’ve seen mothers whose babies just couldn’t escape the daily pain of colic and silent reflux. Gosh, I once even read a facebook post one day stating that by not breastfeeding your baby, you’re sentencing him or her to an early death. Needless to say, I unfollowed this Banana in a split second. What a load of old tosh. In my eyes, as long as baby is fed and loved and looked after, none of the above should even matter. Jeeze.
So what are we planning to do and why? I’m sorry, the answer isn’t going to be a short one.
Noone can be sure how things will go yet, but our plan is to bottle feed. And there’s a whole host of reasons why we feel that feeding baby this way will work better for our family set up. But firstly let me say, our decision to bottle feed does not in any way discredit those who choose to breastfeed. I am a big admirer of those who do. I’m just not sure it’s for us.
Daddy & Daughter Time | One of the main things that came to light when we were discussing this, was that Sean would like to be involved in our baby’s feeding routine. Now, yes, I know so many couples who both have a role when breastfeeding is concerned, but I also know a few Daddies who have really struggled to bond with their little one as only Mama is able to comfort and feed her and I don’t want Sean to feel like he can’t settle or provide our daughter with what she needs when she’s hungry. We’d really like it to get to a point where there is one feed per day that is solely his, be it first thing in the morning before he goes to work or just before we have our tea or go to bed. Of course, he will spend other time with her, but we want this to be their constant, their special time of day when they both know where they’ll be – their own little routine within a routine which in turn will give me, as the person who will be there day in day out, a little breather. Maybe even a chance to have a bath or put that pile of washing I’ve been tripping over all day away, or get out of the house and walk the dog. Blimey, perhaps I will even have a nap. Also, we’re both aware that having a newborn can get a little overwhelming – your whole life changes in the blink of an eye, and suddenly you become the answer to your new little sleep thief’s every need. If one night, after days of no sleep I momentarily lose the ability to cope with another night feed, Sean will be able to step in and take the reigns for a bit and that is already taking a bit of weight off of my mind.
Getting into a routine | Ha! I hear your laughs as I type. Is there really such a thing as routine when you’ve got a newborn? Either way, I’d like to give it a shot as I’m a bit of a planner and without a set routine to my day I’m known to go a bit stir crazy! With a bottle fed baby you are able to form the shell of a feeding routine. I am told bottle fed newborns tend to feed every 3-4 hours which already starts us off on the right foot when it comes to our daily routine, with the added bonus of knowing exactly how much food your baby is taking in through the day rather than whipping your boob out each time baby decides she wants a bit more!
I quite like my boobs | Over the last 23 years, I’ve become quite fond of my chest dwelling friends and for all of this time they’ve belonged to me and me only. As controversial as this may be, I’m not so sure I am ready and willing to share them. A friend of mine recently confided in me that she no longer feels like her body is her own since having her little girl last Spring and that she was really struggling to find her own identity. She felt like all she was, was a pair of boobs, a milking machine for her little one and as much as she loves breastfeeding, S’s comfort feeding on demand was becoming a little too much. Of course, she is seen by everyone else as more than just a milking machine! She’s a friend, a fiancée and still the same old person I knew before she had her little girl but she felt crap and stripped bare of her self. Sure, she’s bounced back. As a family they are working to wean their baby off the boob and she’s feeling a lot better. I worry though, that I wouldn’t be able to bounce back as well as that and that I would feel, I don’t know, trapped. And that’s no good for anyone’s mental state.
There’s nothing like feeding a baby | A baby cuddle is pretty good, but with the addition of a sleepy feed I think feeding a baby is the crème de la crème of baby squishes. Especially for women. Grandma’s and Granddads love to settle down in the armchair and feed their grandchild. Aunties and uncles are no different. And so who am I to rob our parents, siblings and friends of that special moment with this little one who has been so longed for by all? Besides, sometimes Mum and Dad just need five minutes. Be it for a wee, or to actually be able to eat something warm at a family barbecue instead of juggling a paper plate of… wotsits and the last of the egg sandwiches from the kids table. Also, we have a huge and sometimes rather loud family, and so making sure that baby girl is comfortable socialising and being around everyone is important to me and I think this time spent with other family members, even if only for a 15 minute feed, will help her.
A little bit of Freedom | If you know us personally, you’ll know that neither of us really lead a party lifestyle. We’re much more comfortable at home with our slippers on in front of CSI or chilling with friends and family with a takeaway. However that’s not to say that we both enjoy the occasional couple of drinks at the pub or an evening out with friends – sometimes together and sometimes apart. I am hoping that if baby is bottle fed we can rest assured that if I want to head out for a couple of hours, I can do so without the worry that she might need a feed.
I might go back to work | In fact it’s quite likely that I will have to and I want to make sure that from the onset, we lay the foundations to ensure that at whatever stage I return to the office, the transition is as easy as possible for baby and I don’t think we’d be able to do that if I were to breastfeed. Firstly having been bottle fed, she’ll be used to drinking from a bottle rather than solely from my breast, which obviously cannot be detached and packed off in the changing bag for a day at nursery! Secondly, she will not see me as the only one who can give her what she needs when it comes to food.
A lot of the above reasons probably seem a little selfish. Okay, maybe more than a little. But they all come down to one thing – a happy and relaxed Mama often (not always) makes for a happy baby. And as a family, I just think that bottle feeding is the right path for us. Of course, that might all change when baby girl actually gets here, but for now, that is the plan.
Here are a few of my favourite feeding journey stories from other Mama’s.
Alex at Lamb & Bear faced struggles while trying to breastfeed her first little boy and so chose to express and bottle feed. A good reminder that there’s more than just breast or formula to choose from!
Hannah said goodbye to breastfeeding Toby after a long four months of trying which left her feeling like a failure. She tried again with Martha and has loved their breastfeeding journey which just proves that every child is different!
Sarah finally had breastfeeding success after some initial set backs with little Lachlan.
Georgina chose to bottle feed from early on and here’s why she thinks bottle feed shaming needs to stop!
My friend Jennie has breastfed all of her children, and plans to do so with her next little one when she arrives later this year. She’s shared her experiences several times over at Edspire.co.uk
Emily shares how she knew from very early on that she’d be bottle feeding her boys, just like us. Here are her reasons.
Kerry wrote about why she stopped breastfeeding and her tips of transitioning from breast to bottle with Aria.
What are your feeding experiences? I would love to know whether your feeding plans went the way you hoped they would or whether you had to change mid course.
Yesterday, January 10th, was the day we had been counting down to for a long eight weeks – the 20 week anomaly scan! It just so happened to fall on the same day as my ‘Nanny Ann’s’ anniversary. A sure sign that somewhere up there, […]
*Written on the day we hit 20 weeks – Sunday 8th January. In stark contrast to my positivity at the 19 week stage, week 20 was pretty shit. I’m not going to sugar coat it. I went back to work after the New Years weekend […]